February is the new January.

It is presently unclear to me how it has been TWENTY DAYS since my last blog post. I have been busy, sure, I am always busy. I have been trying to catch up on a bunch of things and be in several different places at once, yes. But that is not out of the ordinary. It feels as if I have some how been ruffied by my life and woke up three weeks later!

I am so sorry to have disappeared for that long! Thank you so much to those of you who checked on me! (That scene from Bridget Jones where the wild dogs find her in her apartment all alone comes to mind.)  I felt so loved and missed and I marveled a little at the blessing of having a community of almost-strangers whose thoughts went to me when they didn't hear my voice. That is such a lovely thing.

The truth is, I guess I needed a break. After the holidays, which were fun (and beautiful…see my favorite shot of our holiday window at Marmalade above), but frankly, a little hectic…we closed up shop and the warehouse for a few days and counted inventory (not my favorite task). We tried to get the shop back in order, prepared for our Katie's maternity leave and got ready to go to the first of several trade shows.

We packed up, flew to Atlanta, polished off the showroom and did the dog and pony for a solid week before flying home and then I spent the rest of the week catching up at Marmalade, filling orders from our fabulous 'Winter clearance sale” (Nice Job! By the way! You guys know how to snag a deal!) and getting ready to host a baby shower for a dear friend (cute details to follow). I am exhilarated by it all, and a little tuckered out. I have decided that the New Year for me actually starts in February.

February is the new January.

With all of this great stuff piling up on my plate, I find myself bracing myself for it a little bit. I get asked a lot: “How do you do it all? Well, obviously, I don't. Sometimes I come to a screeching halt for, oh, 20 days or so.

The truth is, you can't do it all…by yourself. I have been thinking a ton about this, this past year, but really intensely this past month. As I add more to my plate, more beautiful opportunity, exiting possibility, necessities, obligations, wants, have to's, musts…I have called on my friends and family and co-workers and staff more than I ever have in the past. More than maybe I have wanted to. And graciously, and most-often willingly, they have shown up to help make things happen, get things done or pull something off… it really does take a village.

This is something that I plan to meditate on more this year. Spend some gratitude on, and really get right with. I think in this ever-quickening world we live in, one that is filled with possibility, we can find ourselves wanting to do more and more. There is nothing wrong with that. It can be very inspiring and empowering, but it can also be very defeating when we begin to expect ourselves to be able to accomplish all of those things, and do them well. It exhausts me just to think about.

The reality check is that anyone that seems to be 'doing it all' is not doing it by herself. Not even close. Take a moment to look around from time to time, see who you call on, who helps keep all of your balls in the air. When you figure it out, be grateful for them. If you find yourself short on help, enlist some. And, of course, be part of someone else's village too when you can. It makes everything you accomplish together so much richer and more possible.

It is also just a good idea in general. Your village will usually find you before the dogs do.


What have y'all been up to for the last few weeks??! Fill me in!



  1. Bill Curtis says

    Been doing a lot of what you do.  End of year inventory. Winter clearance.  Gearing up for trade shows. Trying to do it all. Learning to ask for help….oh, and kissing pretty girls in Atlanta.

  2. Kristen says

    Recently got my order of the new Curly Girl cards that are in.  I was delighted to check the site one day and just happen to see the new ones were up for sale.  Well I didn’t want to miss the opportunity so I got doubles, triples and even well 5 of one card.  Then when it arrived within it’s cute canvas bag (love the saying on there BTW and wish you sold items with that quote) I sat down with my mom and shared the latest and greatest from CG.  As I handed her each one she loved them and smiled and really loves the small little phrases you put in the cards.  A few even made her tear up and cry and I could tell they carried a sentiment that she hadn’t seen before and I asked if she wanted some of them to give to the people in her life.  She was excited to be able to pass along the words of encouragement, condolence and love that you so beautifully bring to light.  And I was pleased that I had purchased enough that she could share as needed.  You never just by one of each sentiment, there are too many unknown opportunities to spread some CG cheer and comfort.  Many thanks!

    Kristen Hansen

  3. says

    Oh how I wish I was still in Boston and could’ve been there for the holiday classes and to see the store all lit up! It looked beautiful! I hope you find some time to recoup and restart in February! Happy New Year btw! I have spread so much curly girl to all my friends and family over the holidays and its been awesome! Everytime I show them something of yours I get to tell them that I met you and then show my fabulous picture (that you graciously took) of you and me in the store! Seriously that made my little three month adventure to New England so incredible! Thank you so much again!

  4. says

    I’ve been homeschooling my kids, playing housewife, and working on Kelly Rae Roberts’ and Beth Nichols’ Hello Soul Hello Business class.  I hear you are a contributor.:)  Thank you for this post.  I needed to hear the “it takes a village” talk.  I’ve been feeling like I have to have it all together and in the process of that, I’ve been not wanting to do anything.  Thanks for the encouragement to ask for help.

  5. Tami says

    So happy to “hear from you” again!! :o) Glad you are doing well and that you were away for good reasons (instead of yucky ones like colds & that kind of thing)Your shop window looks wonderful!Kinda makes me wish I lived in MA instead of CA. I think I would miss it here eventually, just never been gone long enough to find out! As always, thanks for your words of wisdom. They are a good reminder and were very well said.

  6. meg says

    I loved this post. We all need people, and that’s a good thing, not a weakness.  I need to remember that. Thank you.

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